“Why me Lord?” a question I’ve often heard asked but never asked about myself. As a survivor of abuse I always wondered What instead of Why? ask What is this for? God has a purpose for everything and it’s not just to torture me, I’m sure.
Why? now that’s a question that drove me crazy when my children were growing up. Why this? Why that? Why, why, why? But they needed to know. Let’s break it down, why, is an information seeking question. We are an inquisitive species and seek to gain knowledge everyday, all day, and that’s not a bad thing. Sometimes we can use why in a form that really doesn’t give us the information we are really in need of. It’s helpful to know why you were the one chosen for something but does it really tell you much you don’t already know or the purpose behind being chosen. But that “Why me” stuff can get you stuck in a rut that is almost impossible to get out of.
We are emotional beings and when we get stuck in a state of “Why me” we tend to focus on all of the negative aspects of the situation you are in. Focusing on the negative easily starts the spiraling reaction of guilt and shame. When we are clouded by these emotions we can spend our entire lives missing the mission that was given to us. You have got to stop asking “Why me” and start asking “What is this for?” “What do I need to learn from this?” “What is the purpose?”
I believe, the life purpose for every living thing on the face of this earth was planned out before the foundation of the earth was set. I know that the reason I went through the things I did in my life and the reason you have gone through the things in your life is part of a intricate plan. We must all search ourselves to find where we belong in that plan and listen to our lives to determine what direction to go next.
I now call it training. Training to bring me to my purpose. Lessons if you will. And given that it is necessary to have all different kinds of people in the world it is also necessary that they go through different things to bring them to the knowledge they will need to be who they will be. Let’s go back a few years for our example, do you think the school teacher and the gladiator would require the same training to be succesful in their field. If the teacher was given life lessons of a gladiator, who is trained for self-preservation and others deprivation, do you think he would be that great at giving of hisself to his students and caring that they develop, probably not. Now before you get in a tizzy we all know there are exceptions to every rule.
So what was your training in? Do you know? Have you even reviewed to see? Take a look at your life, what was it for? what am I to do with this? Dont just sit on your training, hiding it from others like it’s something to be ashamed of. You were trained for a specific purpose, it could be to reach out to millions like Gandhi or it could be to reach out to one, like the many hero’s we hear about and some only the person saved knows about. Had they not listened to know their training, to be available for their purpose, they would not be who they are and we would not reap the benefits of their keen senses and develop into our own true selves.
So I encourage you to take a moment and think back, check your training manual. Did you complete all the lessons? Do you know what they were for? Find your purpose, God didn’t train you for nothing…